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Love Is Not Enough

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“Love is not enough. It must be the foundation, the cornerstone – but not the complete structure.” – When it comes to romantic relationships, we want love to be the end all, be all. We want it to be all we ever need–a to z and soup to nuts.  But, at the end of the day, it’s just not.  Love…

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What’s Bigger?

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Love hurts.  It’s just the way it is.  Unfortunately, it comes with the package.  If you want the ups, you have to be willing to stomach the downs.  Many times “the downs” cause us to lose time with the people we love.  Our feelings get hurt so we create space to put separation between ourselves and our assailant.  Sometimes that…

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What’s your personal best?

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Everybody has a personal best.  Usain Bolt is believed to be the fastest man in the world; his personal best in the 100m dash is 9.58.  Michael Phelps is believed to be one of the fastest swimmers in the world; his personal best in the 200m butterfly is 1:54 minutes.  Buzunesh Deba, who just finished 2nd in the NYC marathon…

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The Secret To Making Marriage Last

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During pre-marital counseling, my pastor gave my beautiful wife and I the secret to making marriage last.  The story he told us on the journey to revealing the secret, is the one where King Solomon is asked to determine, between two quarreling women, the real mother of a newborn baby.  Because King Solomon can not get either woman to admit…

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marriage: an act of selfishness

most of the time, when you hear people talk about marriage they talk about how selfless one has to be in order to make one’s marriage work.  these people talk about all one has to give up in order to make the other person happy and how one has to consistently forfeit their personal needs in exchange for meeting the…

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relationships ain’t never 50/50

somebody lied to us.  somewhere along the line, somebody told us relationships are supposed to be equal–that each person would give to the relationship just as much as they would take out of it.  and now we suffer.  we suffer from failing relationships by accepting this falsehood as relationship gospel. the truth is, relationships ain’t never 50/50. they are 60/40,…

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